My children were with their father (I’m divorced, in case you don’t already know — happily, I might add) at a July 4th barbecue. All of the children there were 12 year-old boys all on the same football team, and my little girl. It was after dinner, the adults were inside having fun, and the kids were outside having fun. Inside, the adults were laughing and drinking. Outside the children were laughing and pulling each other’s pants down. De-pantsing? Remember that? All fun and games, until it’s your little 7-year-old girl and a bunch of pre-teen boys.
Well, you’ve guessed by now, my daughter’s skirt was pulled down, and she freaked out and went inside and told her dad. My ex-husband is a 5’4 Puerto Rican from the South Bronx . . . Need I say more? After approaching the child and his mother, and not getting a satisfactory response, my ex and my children promptly left the party.
Now, here’s where I come in. I’m hearing this story from my kids — which they now call “the incident”. I’m thinking something horrible has happened. “Did someone touch you inappropriately?” “Did you get hurt?” After hearing it, I immediately reply, “Well, did you kick him in the balls?” Yep, I said the B word. It just came out. After both my kids stopped laughing hysterically and my boyfriend reprimanded my for saying balls, my daughter replied “no, I just went inside and told dad”.
I get the whole, go tell the grown-up & work things out theory. But, I also know that especially as a girl, sometimes you have to kick someone in the balls to get respect. Girls have always been taught to be lady-like. I get it. But, I think our daughters need to learn how to be tough in situations like this. Daddy isn’t always going to be there. I think we need to raise our girls a little tougher. Hearing the whole “no means no” speech when you are a teenager, is almost a little too late. I think it’s ok to teach our girls to defend themselves.
What do you think? I’d love to hear it.
And now, a cool video by Kelis. I love the colors and her tribal look. I’ve never seen an attractive nose pierce before — she actually rocks it. Notice her “grey” hair. I blogged about the grey hair trend a while back. I also love the little tiny baby feet peeking out around her hips.